Masturbation as Meditation: Exploring Self-Love Through Self Pleasure

Welcome to a transformative exploration of self-discovery and pleasure, brought to you by Kooch. Today, we delve into a topic that merges the profound realms of spirituality and sexuality: Masturbation as Meditation. Ladies, I think making time for you to connect with your pleasure is so beautiful and important. Having a nourishing self-pleasure practice can ignite your energy and creativity, increase your sexual sensitivity and deepen your enjoyment of sex with a partner. Self-pleasure can serve as a powerful form of meditation and self-connection.

One of my mentors told me that sex is the active form of meditation and meditation is the still form of sex.

The Sacred Act of Self-Pleasure

Real talk… I spent so many years getting myself off watching 5 minutes of porn and using a vibrator. When I moved to Costa Rica, my vibrator broke and there are no stores in my tiny beach town that sells them. In my thirties, for the first time, I started having to use my own two hands. Wow, this process changed me. Vibrators can be great, but what can happen is that we get very used to getting off quickly with only clitoral stimulation. Then when we are with a partner, we wonder why it’s hard to climax.

The key to great sex is surrender; it’s being able to let the mind and body go and sink into the sensations of the moment. You know what helps us learn to quiet the mind? Meditation! So why not try combining the two and see where it takes you?

Oh, and did I mention it’s good for your health? There are so many studies showing that female masturbation releases feel-good hormones, helps you sleep better, reduces anxiety and gives your immune system a boost.

Why Masturbation as Meditation?

Meditation, in its essence, is about presence and mindfulness. It’s the art of focusing the mind, calming the chaos, and connecting deeply with oneself. When we apply these principles to self-pleasure, the act transcends the physical dimensions to become a meditative practice. Here’s how:

Mindfulness: Practicing mindfulness during masturbation involves being fully present with each sensation and emotion. This awareness transforms the experience, heightening every touch and deepening the connection with oneself.
Energy Flow: In Tantra, sexual energy is seen as a life force that can ascend through the body and awaken various energy centers (chakras). Conscious masturbation involves guiding this energy through breathwork and visualization, promoting a sense of wholeness and vitality.
Emotional Release and Healing: Self-pleasure can also be a profound emotional release. By staying present with all feelings that arise without judgment, we can move through emotional blockages, leading to healing and greater emotional freedom.

How to Practice Masturbation as Meditation

Set a Sacred Space: Begin by creating a comfortable and sacred space free from distractions. This could be your bedroom, adorned with candles, incense, or anything that makes the space feel special and personal. Make sure to have plenty of lubricant handy!
Intention Setting: Like any meditative practice, start with setting an intention. This could be anything from seeking healing in a specific area of your life, desiring deeper self-love, or simply wishing to explore your body’s sensations fully.
Breathing Exercises: Engage in deep breathing exercises to relax your body and mind. This helps in grounding yourself and preparing your body for a deeper experience. Spend 2 minutes breathing slowly and deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth to activate your energy body and calm your nervous system.
Slow and Conscious Touch: Begin to explore your body with slow, conscious touch. Notice the texture of your skin, the warmth of your hands, and any sensations that arise. Let go of any goal other than to be present with yourself. Orgasm is not the goal, connecting to the feeling of pleasure in your body is the intention.
Energy Visualization: As you build arousal, visualize your sexual energy moving upwards from your base, through your spine, and to the crown of your head. This practice, known as energy sublimation, can lead to profound spiritual experiences and heightened states of consciousness. Just play around with this at first, see how it feels to try and move your energy with your intention, it’s fun!
Reflection: After climax, or if you choose not to climax, spend some time reflecting on your experience. Embrace whatever feelings or thoughts arise without judgment, allowing yourself to learn from each session.

The Journey Forward

Self-pleasure is not just about achieving orgasm but about embracing a journey of self-love, discovery, and profound respect for your body’s capabilities. It’s a practice that can enhance your relationship with yourself and, by extension, with others.

Whether you are new to this practice or looking to deepen your experience, remember that each moment of mindfulness is a step towards greater self-awareness and fulfillment.
Embark on this journey, explore your depths, and transform your relationship with yourself—one breath, one touch, one moment at a time.

If you have any questions or would like further guidance, feel free to shoot me an email at anne@koochcare.com